Waiting for Experience


One of my biggest weaknesses as a human being and a creator is my need to wait. If you caught my first goal post this year, you’ll see that I have a terrible habit of waiting for everything to be just right no matter what I’m doing. It’s a personality aspect I’m working on, but as everyone knows change is slow and difficult.

In terms of being a creator, I feel this constant pressure not only to wait for everything to be perfect but also this need to wait for more experience. I can narrow that down by saying that I feel as though I should wait for more life experience(s) before I attempt to write about any character’s life. Even as I type that I feel foolish because the majority of what I write about I will never experience—and not only because it’s not possible in terms of nature or science in our world.

This is when my imposter syndrome begins to kick in and I start to feel like a fraud as a writer. If I’m not an expert at something or I lack first-hand experience with something else, occasionally I feel like I shouldn’t write about them. The reality is that no one can be an expert at everything and no one can experience everything. One, that’s why people read. Two, this is why writers research diligently and consult outside professionals and those with first-hand experience.

More than likely this is an excuse devised by my subconscious to distract me; either way, it can be a frustrating obstacle to surmount when I’m trying to write. Again, it’s a work in progress.

One of my major goals this year is to stop bringing all my baggage with me, or at least stop constantly unpacking it when faced with any kind of roadblock. I need to relax more when I approach tasks, like writing, and even new experiences, or repeats of experiences that did not go so well the first time.

As a writer, and person, all I can do is put my best foot forward, do my due diligence, and work hard, this waiting for experience isn’t helping me in any way. And whoever said learning on the fly is a bad thing?

What about you? What do you do when faced with imposter syndrome or other similar writing blocks?


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